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GENERAL COMMENT: Like every baby book I read, I try to keep an open mind. You will NOT find a book that will work for ALL babies but this book worked for mine, who I think is a text book baby.
SITUATION: I was going back to work and my baby was super needy at 6 weeks-- wanted to be helded all the time. He won't nap if I wasn't holding him. And at night, I would rock him to sleep and put him into his crib very very gently when he has fallen into DEEP sleep. Otherwise, he would CRY. But that was my fault because I HELD him alot. This would be fine if I was a stay at home mom...but if even I was, I think it would have taken it's toll on me at some point.
LIKE: I like this book because it helped with getting my baby on a good routine, nap longer, sleep on his own, and sleep longer through the night. I made my own version of the EASY plan, customize it to my baby and what worked for me...this book afterall is not the BIBLE.
RESULTS: By about 8-10 weeks, he was sleeping from 7:30-8 pm to about 4:30 am (with 1 dream feed). Now at 5 months, he sleeps from 8pm to about 7am (with 1 dream feed). He use to nap about 30 minutes at a time. After the plan, he started napping for 2 hours (slightly shorter now since he is older). He LIKES his crib and falls to sleep in about 20-30 minutes of laying down...without ANY fuss. And he is a happy healthy little boy who is 50% for weight and 80% for height.
TRANSITION PERIOD: This didn't happen overnight. I would try for a week or two and revisit the book about a thousand time to make sure I wasn't doing it wrong. He would progess and go back to his old self and progress some more. After about 2 weeks, I customize the plan. You WILL be glad to get some time for yourself and hubby when the baby goes down to sleep in the evening instead of at night. He sleeping pattern gradually falls into place. I don't believe in cry it out so the SHH/PAT worked for me. It was hard and I gave up several times. But it worked before you know it. Just give it your best try and be PATIENT AND CONSISTENT. Even now when he takes a little longer to get to sleep, I still PAT/SHH and he is out.
DON'T LIKE: The tone of the author can be a bit annoying (KNOW IT ALL) but after all, she is a super nanny and have worked with THOUSANDS of babies. This book made me PARANOID as a parent--thinking that I would just ruin my child if I made any wrong moves. But we all turned out okay and our parents didn't have this book.
CONCLUSION: Your instinct as a mom is truly the best guide but sometimes, it does get you into situations that are difficult to overcome. This book helped me better manage my baby's sleep/eating which are the biggest parts of his life. Life is so much less HECTIC for MOM, BABY and DAD.
66 internautes sur 70 ont trouvé ce commentaire utile
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I bought this book after doing MUCH research and reading. At the time my daughter was 9 months old and I had managed to get in the habit of nursing her to sleep. She had to nurse to sleep for every nap and bedtime and every night waking and if, God forbid, she woke up as I lowered her into the crib, we would have to start all over again. She was up every 1.5 hours EVERY night for months, and finally I just had it. I had read books that reccommend cry it out, or controlled crying but even the ones where you went in every 5 to 10 minutes and soothed the baby seemed so cruel to me, and she would get soooo upset. I have even heard of babies vomiting from this. Plus I had more than one person who did "cry it out" tell me that 1. There baby became more clingy during the day and feared/hated his/her crib and bedtime and 2. When they went on vacation or the baby got sick they would have to start CIO all over again when they got home or the baby was well again. There was no way I was going to do that more than once! So I looked for other options, one is the "No-cry sleep solution" I loved the idea, but I didn't like how long it was going to take. I tried it for a while, but I wasn't seeing improvement quick enough (for me), I needed something that worked faster, since I was a walking zombie!! I found this book and thought I would give it a shot, I decided to give it a week and if I didn't see improvement I probably would have given up. The first night was hard (but way easier than the first night of cry it out would have been). The second night my daughter who had never slept more than 2 hours at a time at night, went 4 hours without waking to eat. On the third night she put herself to sleep all by herself with NO crying (just a little fussing) and slept for 4 hours again each stretch. In less that a week she was putting herself to sleep for every nap and bedtime with NO CRYING at all!! She would babble and play and then fall asleep! And she was only getting up once or twice a night (a vast improvement from 7-8!) Within 3 weeks she slept through the night for the first time and has been ever since (with the exception of when she gets sick, however she gets right back to sleeping after she is better, no crying! yay!
We are now using this book with my son. I started right away with him and at 2 weeks old he put himself to sleep all on his own for naps and bedtimes and at 8 weeks he slept through the night. Then he was diagnosed with severe reflux at 3 months and he would wake up in pain at night and the only thing that would soothe him was to feed him. So now at 8 months we are using the book to get him to sleep through the night again now that his meds for reflux are finally right. He had been getting up ever 2 hours at night because of the pain and then it just became a habit once his meds starting working. I started the book 2 days ago. Last night he only got up ONCE to eat. He slept from 7pm-1:20 and then 1:20 till 7 AM! 3 days ago he got up 7 times in one night.
This book WORKS! If you follow it for two days you will see VAST improvement. Your baby most likely won't be sleeping through the night on the 2nd day but usually by 2 weeks they will be. And after the 2nd night you will see such improvement that I guarantee you will be encouraged to continue and it feels so good too because you have saved your baby (AND YOU!) the emotional stress of crying it out!
Basically you get your baby on a routine, NOT A STRICT SCHEDULE. You CAN fluxuate from it, I did with both my kids and it still works/worked for them. You basically just want the baby to get to the point where he/she knows what's coming next. Eat, activity (awake time), sleep.
The only con I found with this book is that she does sound condescending at times, she calls you Luv, and sometimes makes it sound like you are a little kid who doesn't know what you are doing. But, honestly, WHO CARES? So long as it's working I don't care what she calls me! lol
Some people claim she sounds like she is against breastfeeding, but I did not get that impression at all.I think she is just trying to say, breastfeeding or formula, whatever you decide is right for you is best. I BF my daughter for 13 months and this book worked perfectly for me and I plan to do the same with my son.
To the people who are considering doing cry it out but looking for an alternative. Give this book 3 days, just 3 days, if you are not convinced that it is the better choice than crying it out, then go ahead and do cry it out. I pass no judgement on people who do choose to do CIO, it is better to do that and have a happy parent than to have a sleepless unhappy parent IMO. But if you are on the fence and feel guilty about having or deciding to do CIO, just try this first! It's just 3 days, and if it doesn't work, you can always do CIO afterwards. I have reccommended this book to 4 people already and ALL FOUR of them said it worked for them, and 2 of them give it as a shower gift they loved it so much.
72 internautes sur 83 ont trouvé ce commentaire utile
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Most baby parenting books fall into one of two categories: the old-school, "get the baby on a schedule" philosophy or the pro-co-sleeping, child-led "attachment parenting" philosophy.
This book is clearly in the former category, and I think it's the best of its kind. Tracy Hogg is a big believer in getting your baby on a schedule as soon as possible, but she clearly loves babies and advocates for doing so gently, paying attention to your baby's needs and cues.
Her tone can be bit unforgiving (e.g. you kind of feel like a failure if you don't have your five-month-old in a consistent routine) and I disagree with some of her suggestions (e.g. her "Pick Up/Put Down" soothing method just upset my baby further) but, overall, I found the book to be full of helpful suggestions and information.
In particular, the detailed charts of what quantity and types of foods babies should eat at various stages and sample routines and schedules were invaluable. (A few women I know bought the book just to have those charts!) Even though I didn't follow them exactly, it helped to have detailed, specific examples rather than the vague suggestions that most baby books offer.
Bottom line: if you are opposed to the idea of getting your baby on a schedule and directing her routine (as many of the people who gave it a low rating seem to be), you will not enjoy this book. If, however, you're open to that philosophy, this book is a must-have.
27 internautes sur 34 ont trouvé ce commentaire utile
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Ok, it is true that you need to ignore the condescending term, "accidental parenting." You also may need to ignore her hokey acronyms, especially if you are a snarky New Yorker like myself. However, once you've done the above, get reading and planning.
We did not want to let our baby "cry it out." We were also not into the idea of having him sleep in our bed until he decided to stop-- perhaps at the age of thirteen. If you did either of the above, that's fine. Do what works for you. But if you are like us, this book will work for you. The first night was terrible. The second night was his normal wake up twice. The third night he slept from 7 pm to 7 am and woke up happy. Now he goes to sleep when it is time for his naps and at bedtime. We no longer have to dance around the room to Nora Jones for 40 minutes. We love Tracy Hogg.
To the reviewer who said that Tracy Hogg did not have children... is Ms. Hogg's son aware of that? He might be shocked.
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This book is a must for all parents! My six-month-old daughter would not sleep during the day or night. It would take me 1 1/2 hours to get her to nap for 20 minutes. It took me HOURS to get her to sleep at night -- and then she'd wake every hour or two throughout. She was miserable. I was miserable. I had read every parenting book and sleep book I could get my hands on, but none of the techniques seemed appropriate for my child or my parenting style. I was desperate, but didn't know how to get out of the hole we were in. All the sleep books talked about a schedule. But how do you get an overtired child that never sleeps on a schedule? This books tells you how step by step. I decided to give her methods a try and follow them for two weeks before judging. After just a couple of days I saw huge improvement. There were a lot less tears at nap time and bed time. Her pick up/put down method really worked for me. She gives detailed descriptions of the method for each age group, which was lacking in her first book. After 1 1/2 weeks, my daughter takes two naps during the day for at least 1 1/2 hours -- often two hours! I'm still in shock! I don't even know what to do with myself now. Last night, I put my daughter to bed without one single tear. This is a child that would cry for three hours despite my attemps to sooth her. She actually seems like she WANTS to take her naps and looks forward to bedtime.
While I bought this book for the sleep advice, I have found the rest of the book helpful too. I just started solids and find the chapter on that helpful. It gives you a breakdown of how often and what a child should be eating at certain ages. The behavior chapters are good too. She talks about the different temperments and how to parent your individual child by keeping in mind his/her personality.