Review
"...a useful and easy-to-read self-help book that thoughtfully considers gay men's romantic and sexual relationships in light of the fact that HIV is the lens through which all gay men must evaluate them."--Out "This is a book for all of us that challenges our honesty and willingness to accept that same honesty from others."--Triangle Journal News
Book Description
The facts of life have never been more complicated for gay men. While the threat of AIDS has been diminished by new treatments and longer life expectancy, HIV remains a serious and intractable foe. In this affirming guide, therapist Michael Mancilla, himself HIV-positive, helps fellow gay men, both single and partnered, pursue the happy and fulfilling love life they deserve. Readers will find advice on everything from meeting Mr. Right and talking about HIV status to building the long-term relationships that many never expected to have. Candid first-hand accounts reveal how others in the community are negotiating safer sex, overcoming legal and financial hurdles to plan for the future, learning to accept care as well as give it, and crafting the kinds of intimate relationships they want, whether that means casual sex, dating, or permanent commitment. Smart, honest, and insightful, this book is written from the heart.
About the author
Michael Mancilla, MSW, LICSW, is an openly HIV-positive psychotherapist who specializes in working with individuals, couples, and families affected by HIV/AIDS. He is a frequent presenter at national and international conferences. Mancilla's story of the impact of HIV on his relationship was the subject of a [i]Washington Post Magazine[/i] article and a CNN documentary, and was cited in a front-page story in [i]The New York Times[/i].
Lisa Troshinsky is a writer and editor in Washington, DC. She has reported on HIV/AIDS and gay and lesbian issues for [i]The Washington Blade[/i], [i]The Houston Chronicle[/i], and United Press International.
Lisa Troshinsky is a writer and editor in Washington, DC. She has reported on HIV/AIDS and gay and lesbian issues for [i]The Washington Blade[/i], [i]The Houston Chronicle[/i], and United Press International.
Excerpted from Love in the Time of HIV: The Gay Man's Guide to Sex, Dating, and Relationships by Michael Mancilla, Lisa Troshinsky. Copyright © 2003. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
Introduction Chapter 1: Tell and Kiss: The Skill of Disclosure Chapter 2: Transitions: Reflection, Resilience, and Opportunity Chapter 3: Love in Contrast: Negative and Positive Chapter 4: An Indian Summer Romance: Positives with Positives Chapter 5: Jumper Cables and Relationships: Negatives with Negatives, by Mark Wojcik Chapter 6: In Sickness and in Health: Your Body and Your Relationship Chapter 7: Lazarus and Survivors: Those Who Continue Epilogue Appendix A: Legal Protections for Couples with HIV, by Liz Seaton Appendix B: Resources Index Introduction Chapter 1: Tell and Kiss: The Skill of Disclosure Chapter 2: Transitions: Reflection, Resilience, and Opportunity Chapter 3: Love in Contrast: Negative and Positive Chapter 4: An Indian Summer Romance: Positives with Positives Chapter 5: Jumper Cables and Relationships: Negatives with Negatives, by Mark Wojcik Chapter 6: In Sickness and in Health: Your Body and Your Relationship Chapter 7: Lazarus and Survivors: Those Who Continue Epilogue Appendix A: Legal Protections for Couples with HIV, by Liz Seaton Appendix B: Resources Index
