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Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting [Format Kindle]

Laura Markham
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"Calm Parents, Happy Kids will transform your experience of parenting. Relying on a combination of up-to-the-minute brain science and the kind of practical wisdom so often missing from parenting books, Dr Laura tells you not only the ‘why’ of children’s behaviour but also ‘how’ to have calm parents and happy kids." (Melissa Hood, Founder of The Parent Practice, the UK’s leading parent support company)

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A groundbreaking guide to raising responsible, capable, happy kids

Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham’s approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don’t need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe—or even punish.

This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions—and get them in check—so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years.

If you’re tired of power struggles, tantrums, and searching for the right “consequence,” look no further. You’re about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way.

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  • Format : Format Kindle
  • Taille du fichier : 891 KB
  • Nombre de pages de l'édition imprimée : 306 pages
  • Pagination - ISBN de l'édition imprimée de référence : 0399160280
  • Editeur : TarcherPerigee (27 novembre 2012)
  • Vendu par : Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Langue : Anglais
  • ASIN: B008JHXOOK
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  • Moyenne des commentaires client : 5.0 étoiles sur 5  Voir tous les commentaires (3 commentaires client)
  • Classement des meilleures ventes d'Amazon: n°54.282 dans la Boutique Kindle (Voir le Top 100 dans la Boutique Kindle)

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5.0 étoiles sur 5 Une reference dans notre famille 3 décembre 2015
Par FloZ
Format:Broché
Dommage qu'il ne soit pas traduit en francais - je voudrais le conseiller a toutes les mamans francaises que je connais (ou pas), mais toutes ne lisent pas l'anglais facilement.
Ce livre a tout simplement change ma vie! Quand mon bebe a commence a montrer son temperament, a s'affirmer en s'opposant... j'ai d'abord reagi comme l'avaient fait mes parents... en poussant des gueulantes, en punissant (le fameux "coin")... Mais apres chaque confrontation, j'avais des noeuds dans le ventre. Je connaissais deja le blog de Laura Markham et j'ai decide de lire le livre... Quelle excellente idee! Les conseils sont simples, et repetitifs... mais il faut au moins ca pour se "reprogrammer" quand on n'a connu que la "methode a l'ancienne" pour elever les enfants (et qui n'est pas si "ancienne" que ca, puisqu'elle a toujours cours aujourd'hui). C'est loin d'etre facile a appliquer, il faut cultiver une maitrise de soi assez phenomenale, mais plus on essaie, plus ca devient comme une deuxieme nature. Et pas seulement avec les enfants... ca vaut aussi pour les relations entre adultes.
J'avoue qu'il faut un certain etat d'esprit pour aborder ce livre - si vous trouvez ca normal de crier sur vos enfants, de les menacer et/ou de les punir pour qu'ils vous obeissent (en sachant que le coin marche peut-etre quand ils sont petits, mais qu'ils vont grandir...), alors ce n'est pas un livre pour vous. Mais si, comme moi, ce mode "d'education" vous pose probleme, alors vous trouverez des reponses dans ce livre.
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5.0 étoiles sur 5 Life changing 23 avril 2014
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My husband and I read this book together on a car trip. He usually isn't the least bit interested in parenting books, but I asked to let me read him just the first chapter as he drove and then decide if he wanted to hear more.

We read the entire book on our way to the in-laws and on the way home discussed how differently we parented during our visit. Amazing book.
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5.0 étoiles sur 5 Dr. Markham, meilleur "guide" dans l'univers de l'enfant 11 décembre 2014
Par B07FLM
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Son site est extremement utile; on s'en sert depuis l'arrivee de notre bebe. Puis, ce livre est dans le meme registre donc c'est un tres bon achat.
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5.0 étoiles sur 5 THE Parenting Book EVERY Parent Should Read and Re-Read 4 décembre 2012
Par Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama - Publié sur Amazon.com
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I am a gentle parent. I am a conscious parent. I put a lot of work into keeping calm when dealing with those tough parenting moments. I try to always hold the space for my daughter to simply "be" who she is in the every moment. But...

My default button is impatience and a penchant for raising my voice. *Sigh*

It takes a lot of work to keep myself in check as a peaceful, supportive parent. When I do veer of course, my daughter is sure to remind me of the error of my ways. For days on end. Days. On. End. Impatience and raising my voice does NOTHING to strengthen my relationship with my daughter.

I read and research. A lot. I have read all of the gentle parenting resources out there. I have taken a little of this and a little of that and tried to bring it together into a parenting style that works both for me and for my daughter. Yet, I still have not perfected the art of patient parenting.

I have been waiting anxiously for Dr. Laura Markham of Aha Parenting to write and release a book on peaceful parenting. I love her blog. I find myself nodding vigorously to every post she writes. Her words always give me pause. I digest them. I put them into action. And yet, I knew that she was holding back and had so much more to offer!

Enter Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.

This is THE book that was missing from my repertoire of gentle parenting resources. This is THE book that I read two times in a row while barely coming up for air. The is THE book that has actually showed me, in a palatable manner, how to be the patient, non-voice-raising mama I knew I could be.

Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids might seem like a lengthy book at first glance but it is divided into three sections which makes it much easier to digest. Each section is broken down further into pointed topics which are designed to help you master peaceful parenting. The division of topics is perfect, giving the reader the opportunity to let the research, the advice, and the real-life application techniques a chance to soak in.

There are so many things I enjoyed about this book. First, while Dr. Laura does not talk down to the reader, she doesn't present information in some esoteric, can't-wrap-your-brain-around-it way either. She is clear and gentle, yet effective in the research and methodology she outlines in the book. Basically, she speaks to your heart in a way that gets it to open up without making you feel horrible about your past shortcomings as a parent.

Second, this book is designed to be used for a long time! Parents of toddlers will benefit just as much as parents of elementary school age children. In fact, the earlier you read this, the more of an opportunity you have to use it as your child grows! Dr. Laura has several sections that she breaks down further based on the age of your child. I love this because as every parent knows, there is NO one size fits all approach to parenting children as they move through various developmental stages. Each age and stage comes with its own unique set of challenges and opportunities. Dr. Laura has given parents the gift of learning how their parenting can evolve alongside their children's growth and development.

My advice is to read the book cover to cover before attempting to implement any of Dr. Laura's techniques. As you go, earmark what resonates with you, perhaps focusing on those areas you really need to troubleshoot within your parenting arsenal. (That is a nice way of saying "earmark the sections that you are having parenting failures with!") Then go back and dig deep. DEEP! Don't take shortcuts. Don't try to rush anything. Take what Dr. Laura suggests and deliberately begin making the changes you feel in your gut you need to make. Then watch your relationship with your child bloom like you never thought it could. Because it will based on my experience.

I have lots more to say about this resource. You can read my full review here: [...]
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5.0 étoiles sur 5 Your kids will notice the change right away! 20 décembre 2012
Par Shannon - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Broché|Achat vérifié
A childhood friend posted information on "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids" on her Facebook page, and I finished reading it a couple of days ago. What I have learned from this book has already improved my relationship with my eight year old son. My son thanked me this morning for reading this book. He said I am turning into the mom he always wanted. "Even if it means you don't always get your way?" I asked. He replied, "It's easy to learn from my mistakes when you aren't yelling at me about them." I almost burst into tears. This book is amazing, and by reading it I showed him that it is never to late to change your ways.
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3.0 étoiles sur 5 Good but not for everyone 25 juin 2013
Par Lisa - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Broché|Achat vérifié
I wanted to love this book but it's not for us. I think it might resonate really well with people into "attachment parenting" and think that should be mentioned in the description. It might fall short with some very strong willed children though, like mine. At least, that's what I found when I tried a few suggestions.

The positives of this book is that it does a good job of highlighting the need for the parent to calm down. There are good tips. It made an important point that other parenting books do not, such as, it's alright to take a moment (or 10!) to calm down before addressing the problem. Many other parenting books say you need to address the problem immediately so the child knows exactly why consequences are happening. It gives some good tips about knowing how your child reacts to certain situations and have the foresight to diffuse them before the problem occurs. It promotes empathy, which can only help your relationship. I found I already do a lot of empathizing with my child.

Where I have the problem is the constant "making light" of problems or trying to turn them into a game in order redirect the behavior. This might work with some kids but not mine. In one example, a child wants the parent to move from a particular spot on the couch and the parent is supposed to make fun and games with the child... but not move from the spot. That only works with my daughter to a point. She would not become distracted, she would play for a while but then become serious and reassert her laser beam focus. Another example is about spitting, instead of consequences for spitting in the house the solution was to take the child outside to make a game of spitting out there. Like, "Oh, haha, look I can spit further than you!" Yeah, I can just see myself and daughter on the front steps of our house spitting all over. I somehow don't think that highlights what a bad thing spitting is and would really give my kid the green light that it's ok. She's "strong willed" and while that example would let her know it's ok to do it outside... she would quickly push her boundaries and do it inside again.

I think this approach would probably work very well with my younger daughter who is more laid back and open to suggestion. However, I don't think it will fly with my older strong willed one.
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5.0 étoiles sur 5 This book saved me after my 2nd child was born 21 janvier 2013
Par Oregon Farm Mama - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Broché
As of the writing of this review, I have two children: a 3 year-old son and 4 month old daughter. I had the good fortune to "discover" Attachment Parenting before my son was born and have enjoyed raising him with physical and emotional closeness. But around the time that my second child was born, things got really hard. Developmentally, my son was hitting some challenging stuff, plus the stress of a new sibling, a mom recovering from a hard birth, and other stresses in our life that landed at the same time. He was having huge meltdowns several times a day that were really hard for me. Somehow I got the idea that the intensity of his emotions was abnormal or harmful. It seemed silly that he would wail about the most seemingly minor things. Consequently, my "instinct" was to try to "contain" his negative emotions or distract him somehow (or just STOP THE WAILING!). But, no surprise, it didn't work, and the more I tried ignoring or negating his tantrums, the worse they got (and the more disconnected we felt).

At this time, I checked out "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids" from the library and started reading it. About halfway through the book, I got really angry and almost came on here to write a somewhat negative review before even finishing it. I was thinking, "hey -- I parent this way, and my kid is a mess. This doesn't work!" Fortunately, instead I kept reading and eventually came the realization that I was *NOT* empathizing with my son in his moments of hard emotions. Instead I would negate somehow (by ignoring or explicitly telling him to "stop crying") and/or give in to his stated desire (thus not maintaining important limits). The book also helped me to understand WHY these sorts of hard emotions are totally developmentally normal, and why it's so important for caregivers to help kids get through these emotions gracefully.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I needed to start over with my son. Using the advice in this book, I started doing more intentional connecting with my son every day -- roughhousing and playing connecting games. I also realized that I needed to "get over" *MY* discomfort with his tantrums and just accept the emotions. Now, when he cries, I try to make space in our life for me to stop what I'm doing, hold him, and tell him that his emotions are "ok." I literally tell him things such as, "it is ok to feel mad right now. I am going to hold you until you are feeling a bit better." What a marked contrast to what I was doing before!

In just a few days, I saw a huge difference. He still has tantrums, but we both respond differently. They usually don't last as long ... although sometimes they do, when he has a lot of backed up emotion that needs to come out. But now that I understand how normal this is, it's a lot easier for me to stay calm and give him the support he needs WITHOUT feeling like I need to "give in" to demands that go beyond our household limits (such as wanting something else at dinner besides what I've prepared, for example). Also, between tantrums, the atmosphere in our house is totally different. My son seems lighter, quicker to laugh, more playful ... generally happier and more content. And, my husband and I no longer feel like we're walking on eggshells around an about-to-explode volcano. We are all having a lot more fun together, and my son even seems easier with his new sister now that his emotional needs are being more fully met.

I think that every parent would find themselves "pushed" by this book. Perhaps you yell at your kids; Dr. Laura will call you on it. Perhaps you give in to your kids' demands; Dr. Laura will call you on it. But she does it in a loving, patient way, with lots of easy-to-understand reasoning to support her ideas. I love that this book is very clearly organized, with bullet points and lists of specific actions. I will be revisiting this book with some regularity, because it is so easy to get caught up in "conventional wisdom" ideas about parenting (such as ignoring tantrums to get them to stop). In contrast, implementing Dr. Laura's advice feels SO good all around. It feels good to now acknowledge the validity of my son's hurts. I think that it will help a lot as I continue down this path of parenting two children, when there will inevitably be strong emotions in both kids. I no longer feel like it's my job to judge whose emotions are valid, but to help us understand simply what emotions we are feeling and then move THROUGH them.
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2.0 étoiles sur 5 Tried it - total disaster 19 novembre 2013
Par Olivia's Mom - Publié sur Amazon.com
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I really wanted this method to work, but we tried it for a month and the results were just awful. Our daughter went from reasonably well-behaved to an absolute nightmare. We'd been using the "setting limits with your strong willed child" method for the past 2 years, with pretty decent results, but I'm always looking for ways to be a better parent and a friend recommended Dr. Markham's website and book. It sounded really good in theory when I read the book, and it shamed me into feeling like I was doing lasting psychological damage to my daughter by putting her in time out, so I decided to try Dr. Markham's method.

Maybe this would work if you have a easy-going child, but for my strong-willed daughter, it was a disaster. She would just push and push and push looking for a limit. She went from a kid who pretty much never threw a tantrum to a child who had major meltdowns several times a day. I'd "hug" her through it, etc... all the stuff the book says, but really it just ended up being a huge waste of both of our time and energy. We ended up missing tons of playdates and activities because she was too busy having a tantrum. She'd purposefully do crazy, ridiculous bad stuff just cause she could. For example, one day, she stuck her hands in her food. (She's 3, not 1, mind you). When I asked her nicely to please stop, she just looked me in the face and did it more. So then I set a limit (which Dr. Markham does say to do... though she only gives one example of how to do this in the whole book, and mainly the reader is left confused about this part b/c she says never give a parent contrived consequence, but I'm not sure how that's different than a limit. For example, her "limit" is the parent taking the child out of the bath b/c they're splashing - how is that not a consequence???). So I said, "I'm sorry, sweetie, we're going to have to put the food away now because you're making a mess" she just looked at me and rubbed the food that was already on her hands all over her clothes, hair, etc... So I took her to the sink calmly and said "ok, now we need to wash it off cause you made a big mess" and she had a major tantrum / meltdown. When I finally got her to calm down enough to wash her hands, I left the bathroom for 20 seconds to get a towel and she put her hands up to the faucet so that water started spraying all over the entire bathroom, soaking everything. And so on. You get the idea. I found myself losing my patience after the 4th or 5th instance of deliberate bad behavior in a row and screaming at the top of my lungs "STOP", and I'm a mother who has literally never once yelled at my child before in my life. This type of thing happened several times a week while trying this method. I seriously was beginning to think there was something wrong with my daughter and considering taking her to a child psychologist. But then one day, I decided that enough was enough, and whether or not time out was traumatizing her for life, it was way better than having a mother who screamed at her, so I went back to the "setting limits" program, and miraculously within a few hours she went back to the very pleasant child she'd been before we started this nonsense and stayed that way from then on. No she's not perfect. She's a strong willed kid, and she definitely still tests sometimes. But she wastes a lot less of her time and energy and our time and energy testing, because the limits are clear and she knows where they are.

Dr. Markham claims that her book is research based, but the main research she cites is the same general research cited by the "setting limits" book, which basically says kids do better if you are both loving and strict. It doesn't say anything about exactly how to achieve this balance, though Dr. Markham makes it seem like her way is the only way to do it. What I don't see in the book is any research that shows that kids who are sometimes put in time out, but otherwise have loving supportive parents, end up growing up to have social/emotional problems. I also don't see any research in the book that shows that letting toddlers throw as many tantrums as they want makes for kids who grow up to be better people.

I did give the book 2 stars rather than 1, for two reasons:
1. She does make a good point about calming yourself, healing your own demons, and not yelling, that I think would be useful for a parent who is a yeller. I'm not (or at least I wasn't) so this wasn't really useful for me.
2. The part about "mastery coaching" in the last chapter is based on some real research and is a useful approach not found in many parenting books.
3. She does make some good points about making some time to connect with your child every day, which is certainly important to remember.
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