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Save the Date: The Occasional Mortifications of a Serial Wedding Guest
 
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Save the Date: The Occasional Mortifications of a Serial Wedding Guest [Format Kindle]

Jen Doll

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***This excerpt is from an advance uncorrected proof.***
 
Copyright © 2014 by Jen Doll

Allow me to begin by saying, I am very, very happy for you.

Allow me to begin by saying, Once upon a time there was a girl who met a boy, and they fell in love and wanted to be together forever, and she wore white, and he wore a tux, and they walked down an aisle strewn with rose petals into their bright, shining future. That girl was not me. Congratulations! Or is it best wishes? Here is your KitchenAid. Le Creuset Dutch oven. Kate Spade stemware. Crate& Barrel flatware. Highball glasses. Crystal paperweight shaped like a heart. Hundred- dollar gift card to that furniture store you like. “Informal pasta,” whatever that is; you had it on your registry, so it must be good! Four tea towels, a stainless-steel garlic press, a “Love” coaster set, a pack of organic coffee filters, and a butter knife, because I didn’t have a moment until just before this grand event to go online and buy you anything and that was all that was left. Your family sure is proactive. How can you stand them? Oh, here is your bowl. Yes, I bought you a bowl. I realize it wasn’t on your registry, but I got it for free when I bought the same bowl for myself. I guess that doesn’t mean I bought it so much as acquired it, but, wait, I’m talking too much, aren’t I? You look amazing! Cheers to the gorgeous couple! Yes, please, a refill would be excellent.

But let’s backtrack.

Weddings.

Sometimes they come once a year and seem like a good excuse to go on a vacation to a predetermined destination, a place with built-in friends and a legitimate purpose and even a prepared schedule of activities, a wedding gift basket waiting for you in the hotel room, packed with granola bars and locally derived tchotchkes and miniature bottles of sunscreen. Sometimes they come like migrating birds or wolves, in flocks or packs. When you glance behind your shoulder, there’s another one gaining ground, and you can’t seem to stay ahead of them no matter what you do. They’ve got their eye on you. Sometimes it seems every weekend is a wedding. On the odd occasion, one weekend brings two, forcing the invited into a perilous decision-making scenario that has grave, long-lasting consequences: Which couple will be anointed friends forever, and which will descend slowly but surely into the status of “mere acquaintances,” their big day having been forsaken? Intrepid guests who don’t want to choose will go to both, driving for miles, taking red-eye flights, swapping out dresses and shoes and jewelry and handbags and itineraries as if actors in a play or models in a fashion show, which is a not entirely inaccurate depiction of a particular State of Wedding Guesthood. This is just what’s happening to us right now, the wedding guest of a certain age will think, gasping for breath but shrugging it off, going along. We’ve reached that stage in life. It’s only temporary. This, too, will pass! At some point, surely, the perpetual wedding dance will cease, and we will be able to sit back in the comfort of our wedding guest retirement and possibly even save a little money by not going to so many weddings. But while we’re going to weddings, we should try to have fun at weddings. They only happen how many times a year? Well, we really have no other choice.

And oh, there is fun! There is plenty of fun. There’s fun even before you get to the chapel or the reception hall or the rented suite of the fancy hotel or the country club or your best friend’s parents’ backyard. The weeks and months preceding each wedding will inevitably involve secondary parties— bachelorettes and bachelors and showers and engagement celebrations and whatever else is deemed necessary to get the crowd pumped for the headliner. Do not be fooled by these seemingly casual add-ons: They are the octopus tentacles of the ultimate party, stretching farther in all directions, part and parcel of an event that in most cases, when all is said and done, guests will have shelled out rather a lot of time and energy and cash to attend. We do this willingly, even joyfully, because not only are we often actually quite happy to be there but also this is an algorithm we’ve been brought up to believe in. Tit for wedding tat; eventually it will be our turn, too, and we’ll get back everything we’ve given and possibly more. You go to my wedding; I’ll go to yours. I’ll buy you a heart-shaped waffle maker (in stainless steel, per your request); you’ll eventually return the favor with an enameled stockpot in Marseille blue. There’s little time to consider whether this formula will resolve as promised, who’s getting a better deal, or if we even want our turn in the wedding lineup of the ages—and if we do, how and when and why—because we’re already on to the after- party! The fun never stops.

To a single woman, a lifetime of weddings can begin to seem like a nuptial-themed Groundhog Day; we guests behaving slightly differently each time within the same basic framework as we strive for the ending that will put a stop to the unremitting weddings, or at least to the way we’ve been methodically acting our way through them. The story of a serial wedding goer is rarely the impeccable scenario depicted in the brochures and magazines or promised by the wedding planner, nor does it align with the aspirations of a pushy mother of the bride, an entitled groom, or one of those so-called bridezillas (such an awful word). The dream-wedding-in-the-bubble, the “perfect day” meticulously constructed to suit the whims or long-held fantasies of the marrying couple or their kin, is all too easily punctured by wedding guests who don’t share quite those same goals and aspirations. Or who get drunk and then decide they don’t. A “perfect day” becomes an entirely unrealistic concept when you start to let in the riffraff, not least because “perfect” is a matter of opinion. There is no “perfect day.” There is only the day upon which two people are married, for better or worse.




Revue de presse

“Chronicled with the sharply wielded wit that presumably got [Doll] invited to so many weddings in the first place… [Save the Date] touches a cultural nerve, ultimately, because it summons, in unsparing detail, a cultural ritual as relentless as it is familiar.”
Newsweek

“A smart examination of just how weird weddings can be when put under the microscope….The ultimate wedding party favor is a good story. Doll has several.”
Time 

“A meditation on the marriage ceremony and on how, by bearing witness, we shape our perspectives on love, friendship, and commitment… Advice anyone seated at the singles table can take to heart.”
Entertainment Weekly

“Anyone who has ever witnessed a wedding will appreciate Jen Doll’s wry pew-side musings.”
Good Housekeeping  

“To prepare yourself for the summer-wedding onslaught, grab Jen Doll’s ingeniously subtitled new book.”
GQ 

Save the Date is the kind of amusing and inventive memoir that’s almost impossible to put down and ripe for sharing amongst friends (bring this baby to your next girls’ brunch and watch your lady friends clamor to be the first to borrow it). It’s breezy and quick and dead funny, but it also aims straight for the heart with the kind of wit and honesty anyone would want to cherish for many years to come.”
Bustle

“Hilarious.”
Flavorwire

“Jen Doll knows all the ins and outs of attending and taking part in someone else's big day . . . for better or worse….[In Save the Date] she shares some thoughtful (and funny) insights into dating relationships, marriage, and friendship.”
Pop Sugar

“[Save the Date] offers witty and smart insights into modern wedding culture, while still having a good time with all the tomfoolery.”
The Frisky  

"Save the Date is a hilarious, open-eyed account of one woman's life as a wedding guest. Doll chronicles the good, the bad, and the drunken with wit and insight into the state of modern marriage."
— J. Courtney Sullivan, author of The Engagements and Maine

"Reading Save the Date is like attending a wedding with the coolest plus-one ever.  Jen Doll is witty, charming, and can see through all the BS of the wedding culture while still having a fun time with it."
—Drew Magary, author of Someone Could Get Hurt and The Postmortal

“Jen Doll's sharp, funny true tales of guesthood acknowledge—at last—that attending other people's weddings is a unique rite of passage in itself. Save the Date is a welcome companion.”
—Wendy McClure, author of The Wilder Life

“Jen Doll address relationships, romance, weddings, and love with the sharp and intuitive eye of a psychotherapist, and the impeccable comic timing of, well, an impeccably good comedian. Not only that, she coins a phrase that is not only brilliant, but important: ‘My unemployment jeans.’ Save the Date is a self-examination of the single gal at its cleverest, funniest best.”
—Sara Barron, author of People Are Unappealing: Even Me

“With humor and honesty…Doll offers a refreshing take on society’s evolving ideas on marriage and the importance of knowing oneself.”
Publishers Weekly  

“Doll is an engaging guide through the landscape of modern-day courtship and nuptials.”
Booklist 

“A thoughtful meditation on the institution of marriage…A great book to pack for the plane ride to that friend’s destination wedding… [a] fun rumination on love, marriage, and adult friendship.”
Library Journal 

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  • Format : Format Kindle
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  • Nombre de pages de l'édition imprimée : 327 pages
  • Editeur : Riverhead (1 mai 2014)
  • Vendu par : Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Langue : Anglais
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3.0 étoiles sur 5 Some great introspection but also lots of randomness 6 mai 2014
Par Rob Slaven - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Relié
As usual I received this book for free in exchange for a review. This time it was from LibraryThing. Despite that kindness I give my candid opinions below.

The nutshell view of this one is easy. This woman goes to a LOT of weddings, as I'm told women tend to do. While there she's made some insightful observations about the human condition. It should be noted this isn't a book full of witty wedding mishaps. This is no America's Funniest Weddings. It's a pointed and thoughtful look at how humans match up with each other.

To the positive side, the author is obviously a wonderfully bright and introspective soul. I started this book expecting something rather vapid but instead got a very thoughtful view of weddings. These are the sorts of observations that I would quietly make to myself during such a ceremony and never tell anyone about. Jen Doll has chosen to tell the world.

To the negative, as much as I appreciate the author's viewpoint, I just couldn't care enough about the her detailed observations of the human psyche to slog through the sometimes minute details of the her own personal experiences. By all means yes, let us converse about the factors that make people find each other in this mad and mixed up world but let's not talk in detail about what you had to drink last night, what you were wearing or how hungover you feel tonight.

In summary, there's a bright light in this book but it is buried under a bushel of randomness. Lots of potential for a more focused treatise but it's not there yet.
10 internautes sur 11 ont trouvé ce commentaire utile 
3.0 étoiles sur 5 Where's the promised hilarity? 26 mai 2014
Par holly - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Relié
Meh.

As a single, early-30s, city-dwelling female (target demo, right?), I was hoping for more to relate to. Something saucier or more insightful. Something that delved more into Other Stuff like relationship dysfunction and alcoholism? But instead there's a lot of wearying, skimmable exposition. Names of people you never get a good reason to care about. Details that she admits not so clearly remembering. (Doll's at her best in brief musings on broader implications of weddings, rather than boring background.)

Then there are gems like this: "Taking a leap of faith requires leaping with faith" (paraphrase, but the mind-numbing dumbness comes through). Or when she explains that her family's navy Buick was called "The Blue Buick"...is the laughable redundance implied, or is she just unaware? The self-congradulatory "I live in NYC" theme also got old. Most of her mishaps could've been avoided by not drinking "six or seven glasses of wine."

Maybe my expectations were just too high?
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4.0 étoiles sur 5 "To a single woman, a lifetime of weddings can begin to seem like a nuptial-themed Groundhog Day." 4 mai 2014
Par Amelia Gremelspacher - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Relié|Achat vérifié
This book starts out slow. Jen Doll does make some astute remarks about the nature of women choosing a partners, but they are almost lost in some snarky language about marriage and weddings. The first chapter comes off as a cynical attack on we civilians blinded by the lures of a broken institution. It is all to easy to stand back from the bridal bouquet in fear of the fate of matrimony. In the end she does understand her discomfort with,"that's what life is so frequently about: choosing one thing and in that choice foregoing the other.

The chapters relating her experiences at friends' weddings reveal a warmer and more discerning side to her observations. She takes the time to understand the reason these couples chose each other. Her prose turns more witty than sarcastic, and she includes herself in the follies of her friends. I am glad I persevered with this book because it is an enjoyable riff on the place of marriage among women who wait. It's a wry look at something old and something new in the world of weddings.
7 internautes sur 7 ont trouvé ce commentaire utile 
1.0 étoiles sur 5 Not what I expected 16 juin 2014
Par Natalie - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Format Kindle|Achat vérifié
I was expecting a lighthearted read on a single girls experiences as a wedding guest and bridesmaid. Maybe I'm a little too old to have read this book but I found her to be someone who has a drinking problem, is not a happy drunk and sleeps with whomever happens to be sitting next to her at the wedding. I felt I was more of a psychiatrist listening in on her problems rather than some funny wedding stories. I couldn't wait for the book to be finished.
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1.0 étoiles sur 5 A depressing description of the single life 17 mai 2014
Par kATHIE bROOM - Publié sur Amazon.com
Format:Relié|Achat vérifié
I found this book to be little more than assorted ramblings of someone whose main storyline consisted of
misadventures due to abusing alcohol at weddings. Every vignette contained the same scenario. I had to make
myself finish it in the hopes that somehow it would end on a different note. Incredibly it ended the same way it started.
I should have followed my first instinct and given up after the first two chapters.
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