As a counsellor with thirty years experience in the field, I cannot think of many books that deserve to be as highly rated as this one when it comes to sustaining or recapturing romance in a meaningful relationship. So many books lead us to believe we must take exotic vacations, give lavish gifts, acquire more materialistic items to make our partner happy. If that is what it takes to keep your partner happy, in most cases, you can expect some serious financial difficulties down the road, not to mention the stress that goes with it. Many couples I have counselled say the happiest times of their life together were the early years when materialistic possessions were few, but the love was so great, nothing else mattered. Through the years, couples often get so caught up in careers, children and materialistic possessions, that they find little time for themselves. There will only be time if you make the time. All the day-to-day trials and tribulations can create stress, and let's face it, stress is not going to do anything to enhance a relationship or make one feel romantic.
I very much like the author's approach to romance and simplicity. Some of the best things in life cost very little or nothing. A walk on the beach or in the woods, relaxing massage, brunch in bed on Sunday morning, curling up together in front of a warm fire, working in the yard together, a quiet candlelight dinner, this type of quality time cannot be replaced with any amount of money. Believe me, if the ambiance is right, it will not matter whether the meal is expensive duck l'orange or relatively inexpensive spaghetti. Too many individuals have this preconceived notion of what romance should be and often those expectations are not even realistic. This book is filled with endless ways to keep the romance alive, and the wonderful part of all, is that each attempt to nurture and tend to the relationship, generally creates a stronger, more loving bond. If your relationship is fulfilling but you need a little spice in it (and spontaneous spice is, indeed, nice) this book should help, and if the relationship is showing signs of wear and lacks lustre, you definitely need the book. It is a book most deserving of a five star rating...and more!