Ce livre est vraiment intéressant car il permet de réaliser les différentes étapes de son bambin, de l'accompagner dans ces nouveaux horizons de développement célébral. Le parent peut vivre aux côtés de son bébé ces moments clés de crise, de déculpabiliser et savoir qu'au bout du tunnel le rayon de soleil brillera à nouveau .... Personnellement, ce livre m'a appris à être plus présente pendant ces "leaps", à savoir le rassurer et à me mettre à son niveau. J'ai par ce biais été plus patiente dans les journées et les nuits quand mon bébé devenait crampon et de répondre à ses besoins de sécurités !!!! Ce livre permet de réaliser que son bébé n'est pas qu'un petit glouton mais déjà une personne humaine fragile mais si fascinante ...
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If you could only read 1 book, make this it6 décembre 2010
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Out of the many baby books I've read this is hands down the most useful. The information is excellent and makes me wonder why it's not readily available (outside this book ie on websites). Wow, when read it it's like I got the AHA moment and a glimpse into my daughters brain.
Some have complained that the dates are off for their child. They give a range/approximation and as well one thing to consider is that you need calculate from your baby's due date. So parent's of preemies or late babies, keep this in mind.
What I really enjoyed was: (a) The activities listed that you can play with your baby during each stage to help them learn faster, and (b) the parents' experience which helped me realize that I'm not alone in how I feel.
I will say though if anyone is for the CRY IT OUT method they need to read this book. Even though this isn't a sleep book it gave me the insight to realize that I will never use the cry it out method when I know that my baby is going through a developmental phase and needs moms comfort and support more than ever; that would just be torture.
Have recommended this book to several friends who also loved it and will continue to recommend to new parent's as the one must read.
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Really Wanted to Like this Book21 octobre 2012
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As a new mom kinda freaked out by my two month old's sudden cranky, clingy, crying phase, this book seemed perfect. As an avid reader (and a clinical psychologist -- who works with older kids, not 0-3 year olds) this book was poorly written and ... didn't put the research out there. I know many readers may not want a book that is very research heavy or jargony, but I think it is insulting to the reader to just say "we did the research" but never actually talk about it. [And this is European research that I don't hear US developmental psychologists talking much about... not too sure why.]
Okay, but here is the criticism that I think most readers would find helpful:
The book is WAY bigger than it needs to be and is very repetitious... They use similar sections for each "leap" (which makes sense), but the content just feels like it is a near cut and paste of the other leaps. I kept on wondering where is the "meat" or the useful information was. Also, this book should be interesting - and it wasn't.
The website has the helpful (reassuring!) information available for FREE! Go read the website. And take to heart that if you baby hits a weird, sudden clingy, crying, cranky spell he or she isn't necessarily sick and you aren't necessarily doing anything wrong.
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oh YAY, additional content!3 décembre 2010
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If I have only enough money to buy one book for a new parent, this is the book I get them. I have yet to meet a parent who didn't wonder why their baby suddenly got fussy, stopped sleeping 'right' (or slept worse!), refused food, seemed to want to be held constantly... were they 'spoiled?' did we do something WRONG? AHHHH! And here, the answer - it isn't you, it is normal brain development, hang in there and watch for the fantastic new things your baby will understand in just a few weeks!
I first learned about this research back before it was translated to English, and scraped by with my sanity (and less fretting!) on just a few notes translated online. Having the book available is so much better! Being able to look ahead on the calendar and say 'oh, shoot, two weeks from now may not be a good time, hmm, adjust schedules'? So much better than being blindsided by the sudden-who-took-my-baby-and-left-me-this-changeling reaction! :)
It's even nicer to be able to see how long the fussy stage is likely to last. I can hang on better if I know it isn't a permanent condition. I can't emphasize enough how useful it is (especially for first-timers) to know that I didn't do something wrong. I've had people see my baby in a fussy stage all clingy and say 'oh, do you stay home? you've spoiled him, he's not used to being put down!' and then when they find out I was working turn around and say 'oh, so he just MISSES you' - uh, guilt trips either way you go? Nice to be able to say, 'nope, just the normal fussy stage for X weeks, his brain is learning about Programs (or whatever), there's a lot of changes going on inside there!'
Nothing parents need more than more sanity and less guilt. Bonus, ideas on how to play and interact in ways that 'fit' easily into the phase going on, supporting the development underway. (And no, not 'go out and buy' or 'spend hours focusing on...' but 'hey, this is a good time to just sit on the floor with them' or 'telling them about what you're doing is interesting for them right now' type stuff - we'd figure it out eventually, but a few hints don't hurt!)
LOVE LOVE LOVE this book, and so very glad it has extended - I remember getting to the end of the previous one and going AAHHHH WHAT ABOUT THE NEXT STAGE?! I need more! :)
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Not sold on this theory9 octobre 2013
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Interesting book but very, very repetitive. After reading the initial explanation of the "Wonder Weeks" and going through several of the chapters, it just seems like your baby could be fussy for the entire first year. For example, right now my babies are 33 weeks and approaching the 37 week "wonder week." The book says fussiness could start weeks 32-36 but could be 1-3 weeks earlier or later than that. Additionally, in each section parents are quoted from ages that don't seem related to that week, as in, they are 5-6 weeks after the "wonder week." Overall, again, this book is just really repetitive. For 4-6 weeks before and/or after each wonder week, your baby will be fussy, sleep less than usual, be more clingy, etc...and seemingly the second that is finished, he/she will be on the next wonder week. I have not found this book's theory to be true for either of my twins--and I have considered both their expected due date and actual birthday (they were 2 weeks early). And it seems that the milestones are a little early than has been true for mine or is in other baby books--like babies pulling themselves to stand around week 25? I do like the suggested activities for each stage and find myself using them often, so it is worth keeping around.
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Terrible2 septembre 2011
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Note: I read the intro to this book and the section related to my child's age and skimmed other sections. I am glad I checked this book out from my library before purchasing it. While the information about what your child is experiencing is somewhat interesting (otherwise I would have given it 1 star), the tone of this book is downright awful. Some of the information also is just plain contrary to what we know about child development. For example, when the authors (anthropologists and behavioral psychologists - not child development experts!) say that babies might experiment with rough and gentle touch, and things like pinching they say, "If she experiments like this she knows perfectly well what she is doing." I don't think so. It is appropriate to teach your baby that it hurts, but they are not hurting you inentionally. They also talk in other sections of the book about babies being "manipulative." But what I like least about the book is the parent comments. I know they are supposed to help you feel like you are not alone if you get frustrated sometimes, but the tone of the comments is overwhelmingly negative and sometimes bordering on abusive. There is one where a mother gets so frustrated with her 37 week old baby she shouts "Now shut up!" at him. She goes on to say "his head drooped, as if he was genuinely ashamed of his behavior." There is no way that a 37 week old feels "shame" and if you are so frustrated that you are shouting at your baby you need some help! There are also multiple comments in the book about getting so frustrated or "disgusted" with a baby's behavior that the baby was just put to bed. I get that sometimes parents need a break, but again if this is a regular occurence for you, you should be looking for more support. By including all the comments it is almost as if they are normalizing or condoning this type of interaction. I recommend getting your child development information elsewhere.