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This book is for organized and motivated mothers who want to potty train quickly. In a city apartment with no yard, no outdoor play space, and carpet everywhere except the bathroom and small kitchen, and having a low tolerance for mess, I felt I simply could not stand the "let them run around bare for a few weeks until they get it" method. So I tried this one.
It took a couple of months to gather up all the supplies, but even so, the night before training day, as I was reviewing the method, I realized that the Doll-that-Wets did not have two pairs of underpants, as needed, so that she could change into dry ones - so I did some late night sewing.
However all the preparation paid off. After 4 hours my 33-month old son (who had never sat on a potty before), could (and did) pull down his pants by himself, urinate, pull up his pants, dump the pot, flush, wash his hands, and dry his hands.
He was having such a great time with pottying, that that evening he kept excusing himself every 5 minutes to run to the potty, and was sometimes mildly disappointed when no pee came out.
After day three the novely wore off, and he is now (as of day 5) figuring out how long he can wait before going to the potty.
We have had one accident per day - but I think that this is because, after almost 3 years of disposable diapers, he is still learning how to recognize when he needs to go.
A few comments if you plan to try the method yourself.
1) Azrin and Foxx do say that if you child has a problem with general stubborness ("he understands what you have said, but he refuses to carry out your instructions") then "until this general stubbornness is overcome, you should not attempt to toilet train."
2) Azrin and Foxx also say "You may consider your child to be trained when he walks to the potty chair for the first time without a reminder and completes the entire toileting experience without the need for instructions or guidance." And that your child should continue to wear oversized training pants until "he has remained dry for several days". So realistically, even when this method works as advertized, you need to plan for not only one day for intense training, but a few days of staying at home or only going places where your child's potty will be readily available and where accidents will not be hard to handle. (We have visited friends, but have taken the potty with us.)
3) My son loves novelty and loves the idea of being grown up, so as additional motivators I waited until Training Day to (a) get out the potty (b) get out the dolly (c) remove the baby gate from the bathroom door to allow him access to the bathroom and(d) ever let him wash his own hands by himself in the bathroom
4) Azrin and Foxx's method neglects handwashing. By putting a stool at the bathroom sink, I made it possible for my son to wash his hands independently, and added this to the potty routine, right after toilet flushing.
5) I allerted Grandparents and a few good friends in advance, so that when we called them on Training Day, they were ready with lavish praise.
6) When my son's interest flagged partly through training, and I was running out of more positive things to say about pottying, I pulled out a potty book he had never seen before (he loves books) to give him a little break, while not really venturing off the subject of pottying.
7) I waited until after my son had trained the doll to take him out of diapers and put him in training pants, so that he would not have any accidents before he knew what to do.
8) It was very hard to find a simple doll-that-wets. I ended up buying a Potty Dotty. First I clipped the wires to the speaker to get rid of the annoying chatter. Then I put a magnet inside her leg so that she would pee on my son's potty, and not just on her own. With those modifications a fancy electronic doll has been reduced to one that can be filled with water with the switch in the off position, then with the switch in the on position, pees approx 10 seconds after you poke her bottle in her mouth.
HOWEVER: Don't feel you have to potty train this way if you don't want to. My sister-in-law took a look at the book, and her reaction can be summed up as "You gotta be kidding.". She has preferred a much more laid back gradualist approach that would have driven me bonkers.
CAVEAT: I realize even if a method is "guarranteed to work for all children" there will still be some for which it doesn't work. (For us, the issue was sleeping through the night - nothing we tried worked for that - and our son did not sleep through the night until age two.) So if this does not work for you then you have my sympathy, but unfortunately no helpful advice.
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After trying pretty much anything and everything to get my son trained, over the course of years(!), I consulted a child psychologist, who recommended this book. My son was a normal kid, not overly or especially stubborn, but he just did not care if he was wet or dirty. At age 4 and him still untrained, I was desperate.
I got the book, read through it quickly. Read it again. And again. Tested my son with the readiness tests. He did great with physical readiness (duh...he was 4!), but cooperatively, he didn't pass. So we spent a few weeks using the techniques in the book to enhance cooperation until he consistently passed that readiness test.
I blocked off a weekend to do the training. It was going to work. It had to work. I won't say I was the best at following the instructions, but after a gruelling, longest-weekend-of-my-life weekend, he was trained. He had some accidents afterward, but they were few and far between. Other than at night, we never went back to diapers.
The book suggests that nighttime dryness often follows shortly after daytime dryness, but with my son, it took some years still. As he gained dexterity, we added doing laundry to the natural consequence of night time wetness, and that probably solve the problem better than anything. He got very tired of doing laundry at 6am. (I always helped and never scolded, but made it clear that since it was his body and his sheets, he was responsible for both. To me, this method is all about shifting responsibility for toileting from the parent to the child.)
Anyway, he's 14 now. It's been 10 years and I still hail this book as the only method that worked after trying pretty much everything else. When he was 9, his little sister was born, and I never got a chance to try this book out on her. She loved going potty and figured it out during the introduction stage, where we were just letting her get to know what pottying was about. She was daytime dry within weeks and is now night time dry (she's not quite 5 now).
I think my big tips with this book are:
* Take it with a grain of salt. Try to understand the concepts behind the instructions, and adapt them to your child. Yes, it's not "modern", but there is a lot of wisdom to be had. You will have to edit as you read. Just make sure you work at understanding the point of each suggestion. I used very wated down juice and straight water because that's what my son liked. I didn't like what soda did to his cooperation level, so I didn't include it. That sort of thing. I also reduced the practice repetition to two or three times instead of 10. I couldn't find a peeing doll, so I made do with a regular one and sprinkled the accident. I never yelled NO, but understood the point to be distraction, not shaming. He didn't like having to change out of his clothes himself, but did very well with positive reinforcement for the little victories -- putting his hands on his waistband, pulling down, stepping out. I also didn't use a potty chair. I used a stepstool with a regular toilet figuring that potty chairs would not be available anywhere but at home.
* Don't take the readiness tests lightly. Make sure your child can pass them consistently. Not just once, but multiple times over a period of time. You want to make sure the kid is really ready. I like what one of the other reviewers did -- she spent weeks preceding "priming" the child by talking about pottying, reading related books, and watching related videos.
* Remember that EASY is not part of the title. It may be fast, but it isn't easy.
* Remember that this too shall pass. I had a horrible time with my son, but when I was tempted to give in to frustration and scream, I reminded myself that he would not be in diapers when he was 18. I was certain he would figure it out before then. For some reason, this gave me more patience for the moment, I could smile and take a deep breath and have another go.
As this book pre-dates automatic-flush toilets, it has no solution for children who become afraid of them. My daughter was terrified of them after one flushed while she was still going. To fix this, I began putting my hand over the sensor of such toilets while she went. This keeps it from flushing and puts me close enough to her that she isn't scared. I'm petite, so I can still do this in regular stalls, but larger women may need to use the handicapped stall to make this work.
Overall, I recommend the book highly, but caution that if, after reading it, you're not comfortable with the method in theory, then definitely don't attempt it. Use something that better suits your family values.