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C. T. Mikesell
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The Azrin-Foxx toilet-training method really works. For a third of the price of a case of Huggies from Costco, you can get rid of diapers forever.
I used this book's method to potty-train my son three months ago. We spent from 9am to 2pm following the procedures outlined in the book, but he really had it down by noon. He had four accidents in the first week and a half, and none since. If I had been mindful of how long it had been since he last went to the bathroom, a couple of those accidents could have been avoided, but making the switch from changing diapers after the fact to a more proactive approach can take parents a little while too. I was concerned about putting him in Pull-Ups at bedtime, thinking they might feel enough like diapers that he'd revert to pre-training days, but it hasn't been a problem.
This book was written in the 1970's - those troubling times when moms were homemakers instead of fighter-pilots - and the text reflects the sensibilities of the era. The book also makes the suggestion that if bread-winning dad isn't on board with the process that *he* take over the diaper-changing responsibilities and see how quickly he changes his mind. The gender stratification of the day is obvious, but as a dad who trained his son (and *not* as a penalty for not being with the program) I didn't find the cultural anachronisms too off-putting or annoying. The book was written with a very academic tone - not surprising, considering the university research backgrounds of the authors - so it's not a quick and easy read. Because it is primarily a research document, rewriting it to reflect modern sensibilities really wouldn't enhance it.
One caveat: The book is written for training children with well-developed cognitive abilities and motor skills (the book recommends about 2-1/2 for girls, 3 for boys). If you need to train your child at a younger age, this book may not work for you - because children develop at different rates, the book gives has a readiness test to help you evaluate if your child has the skills necessary to successfully complete the training.
When your child is ready for potty-training, start with this book's method. If you provide the recommended followthrough this will likely be the last book on the subject you'll ever need.
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This book is for organized and motivated mothers who want to potty train quickly. In a city apartment with no yard, no outdoor play space, and carpet everywhere except the bathroom and small kitchen, and having a low tolerance for mess, I felt I simply could not stand the "let them run around bare for a few weeks until they get it" method. So I tried this one.
It took a couple of months to gather up all the supplies, but even so, the night before training day, as I was reviewing the method, I realized that the Doll-that-Wets did not have two pairs of underpants, as needed, so that she could change into dry ones - so I did some late night sewing.
However all the preparation paid off. After 4 hours my 33-month old son (who had never sat on a potty before), could (and did) pull down his pants by himself, urinate, pull up his pants, dump the pot, flush, wash his hands, and dry his hands.
He was having such a great time with pottying, that that evening he kept excusing himself every 5 minutes to run to the potty, and was sometimes mildly disappointed when no pee came out.
After day three the novely wore off, and he is now (as of day 5) figuring out how long he can wait before going to the potty.
We have had one accident per day - but I think that this is because, after almost 3 years of disposable diapers, he is still learning how to recognize when he needs to go.
A few comments if you plan to try the method yourself.
1) Azrin and Foxx do say that if you child has a problem with general stubborness ("he understands what you have said, but he refuses to carry out your instructions") then "until this general stubbornness is overcome, you should not attempt to toilet train."
2) Azrin and Foxx also say "You may consider your child to be trained when he walks to the potty chair for the first time without a reminder and completes the entire toileting experience without the need for instructions or guidance." And that your child should continue to wear oversized training pants until "he has remained dry for several days". So realistically, even when this method works as advertized, you need to plan for not only one day for intense training, but a few days of staying at home or only going places where your child's potty will be readily available and where accidents will not be hard to handle. (We have visited friends, but have taken the potty with us.)
3) My son loves novelty and loves the idea of being grown up, so as additional motivators I waited until Training Day to (a) get out the potty (b) get out the dolly (c) remove the baby gate from the bathroom door to allow him access to the bathroom and(d) ever let him wash his own hands by himself in the bathroom
4) Azrin and Foxx's method neglects handwashing. By putting a stool at the bathroom sink, I made it possible for my son to wash his hands independently, and added this to the potty routine, right after toilet flushing.
5) I allerted Grandparents and a few good friends in advance, so that when we called them on Training Day, they were ready with lavish praise.
6) When my son's interest flagged partly through training, and I was running out of more positive things to say about pottying, I pulled out a potty book he had never seen before (he loves books) to give him a little break, while not really venturing off the subject of pottying.
7) I waited until after my son had trained the doll to take him out of diapers and put him in training pants, so that he would not have any accidents before he knew what to do.
8) It was very hard to find a simple doll-that-wets. I ended up buying a Potty Dotty. First I clipped the wires to the speaker to get rid of the annoying chatter. Then I put a magnet inside her leg so that she would pee on my son's potty, and not just on her own. With those modifications a fancy electronic doll has been reduced to one that can be filled with water with the switch in the off position, then with the switch in the on position, pees approx 10 seconds after you poke her bottle in her mouth.
HOWEVER: Don't feel you have to potty train this way if you don't want to. My sister-in-law took a look at the book, and her reaction can be summed up as "You gotta be kidding.". She has preferred a much more laid back gradualist approach that would have driven me bonkers.
CAVEAT: I realize even if a method is "guarranteed to work for all children" there will still be some for which it doesn't work. (For us, the issue was sleeping through the night - nothing we tried worked for that - and our son did not sleep through the night until age two.) So if this does not work for you then you have my sympathy, but unfortunately no helpful advice.
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2008 UPDATE TO THIS REVIEW: I have now used this method successfully with FIVE of my children. Two were three and three were 2 1/2 years old. It has been a great blessing for our family.
I found reading all the reviews on this book to be very helpful on my training day.
MY STORY: I intended to do this method from the beginning but waited until the timing was best for our family. My daughter showed readiness signs at 2 1/2 but it was best for us to wait until she was three as I was nursing the baby and we were moving. As the book warned, I never attempted any toilet training method with my daughter until the Big Training Day. My husband got everyone out of the house for the day, and after four hours of training she ran to the potty, pulled her pants down and peed in the potty all by herself! The rest of the day she continued to do so and she has not been in diapers since. I was petrified about going out in public, and took about six changes of clothes with me, but we have not had one accident in public. I take the potty seat that fits on top of a toilet with me and she tells me "Tee-Tee Potty!" when she needs to go. It is fantastic to have a child who INDEPENDENTLY toilets herself. I added hand-washing into the training as well.
WARNINGS: I say the following just so you will be better prepared for what may be ahead for you:
I did not realize how emotionally difficult the training would be for ME! She was fine during training, loving all the snacks and books I let her read. But I was about to pull my hair out sitting for four hours trying to "talk potty" and waiting. It was very, very hard to do!
Also, I was not prepared for the several accidents that followed the next few days. There were four the first day after training and then three and and then two accidents the next few days. After the first week, we had about one accident per week for several weeks and then all accidents ended. The drills running back and forth and practicing definitely work and are worth doing, but I had no idea how emotionally difficult and physically exhausting it would be for me. She would laugh half the time and cry half the time and I would be near tears and in a sweat after each drill.
Pooping in the potty took her several days to learn--she just held it and I ended up buying a few little dollar store presents and told her she would get to open them when she pooped in the potty. It worked! I believe it helps to know what things make your child happy and use it as a reward for a newly acquired skill.
Staying dry at night and during naps was not a problem--just a rare accident--until we went on vacation. She never had an accident on vacation but seemed to relapse at night once we got home. It took a couple of weeks after we returned for her to stay dry while sleeping again.
I loved this method and heartily recommend it to parents who agree with what are considered by many to be "tough" parenting methods. However, I would not suggest it to my friends who prefer child-centered parenting methods. It is not fun at first and requires strict observance to drills for a short time. But then the short-term hard work is over and you have a happy, independent kid who toilets herself without any assistance from you!
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I was skeptical about rather this book would work. My mother used it to toilet train me and my sister back in the '70's and recommended it highly. I tried training the traditional way first. Following a suggestion in a magazine, I let my 2 year, 9 month old son run around the house naked so he could get to the potty unencumbered. He kept peeing on the floor and crying. Eventually, when I asked him where he would pee, he said "on the floor." This is when I decided to use the book. I had some trouble getting my son to pay attention to me and follow instructions, because he is very stubborn. He is not trained as well as the boy in book (he needs to be taken to the potty), but he has not had an accident in three days (I trained him six days ago). On reading the book, you may feel that the approach is cruel, as a reviewer I read earlier on the site did. However, you must be aware that everything is done in a positive way, the emphasis is on teaching your child, not humiliating them. Also, because the training process is so rapid, your child is spared the continued humiliation of having accidents, especially in public (and you are too). It took me four hours to train my son. Since then, he has been genuinely more happy and self assured. Our relationship has improved immensely as well. This book taught me that I can be my son's teacher and he can learn from me. It also taught me how to improve my interactions with him by following the suggestions for making sure he listens to and follows through on my instructions. This has significantly decreased the times I get frustrated with him or yell at him for things unrelated to toilet training. This book was written to end the humiliation that most children go through before they are completely toilet trained. It is backed by research. It was originally designed for retarded children, and can be successfully used on children with IQ's as low as 30. I am a licensed master social worker, and I would not hesitate to recommend this book to anyone, including my clients.
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I was a skeptic. But, as I work full time outside the home, I thought I would give this a try - it allowed me (and not our nanny) to potty train our 21 month old daughter in a few days. The trick is two fold - you MUST follow the readiness instructions, this is key. Then, you MUST follow the directions explicitly - this is key to ensuring your child learns the lessons to be taught. The trick is in HOW you follow the directions - for instance, my daughter is a little more sensitive than some and takes things to heart. When she had her first accident, I was firm with her, but not as firm as the book might lead you to be. She got the message quickly. Now, the thing I did wrong that you can learn from - she wasn't able to pull her pants down successfully EVERY time before I moved to the next step. This set us back a lot as some of her accidents were caused because tho she got to the potty, she couldn't get them down in time. Lesson learned - don't move on until the steps are done completely and repetitively as the book suggests.
On the + side, she is *wonderfully* proud of herself each and every time she goes and empties her potty chair and "gets to flush" like a big girl, as the book predicted she would be. We are out of diapers (except for nights and naps) and she went on a really toilet at a restaurant the other day - no problems.
One more tip, I would recommend training as soon as your child exhibits readiness (note, not before, but AS SOON AS) because I really think the kids become more set in the diaper and resistance to changing the older they get.
Best of luck!