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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life by Fjelstad, Margalis (2013)
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life by Fjelstad, Margalis (2013)
par Margalis Fjelstad
Edition : Relié

5.0 étoiles sur 5 Awesome!, 30 janvier 2015
I wish I had come across this book many years ago, then maybe I wouldn’t have wasted my life away in relationships that weren’t worth the amount of pain I am still going through. Now I understand what has been going on in my life for a long time, why my relationships have failed, why every time I tried harder and harder only to be terribly disappointed all over again. I haven’t even read half of the book yet but I want to leave my testimony here, for whatever is worth, in the hope that it will help people like me read this book. Too bad that in the UK there is no specialized help for partners of people who suffer from Borderline, because that is what I felt I needed even before I came across this book. My now almost ex-husband had to diagnose himself, although I looked in my notes for a therapist we both had therapy with and one of the subjects to discuss with her had been whether he might suffer from Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The tragedy is that you have to come up with the options as the professionals don’t seem to be able to. She didn’t want to discuss it as she felt that this would take the responsibility of the way he had abused me away from my husband but if he is ill he is ill, there is no way around it and we could have both received more appropriate help. In a way the lack of support also meant that now I am out of this relationship but still going through an awful time trying to secure enough money to live into old age so the nightmare is not over yet!

With every page I want to shout YES, that is us, that is me….. our story is written all over in this book. Now I see the true madness of our relationship but the sad part is that there was a lot of love too, at least from my side as I can’t answer for him. I thought that this relationship was the crowing on my difficult life, that we were going to grow old together…. Now I see that not only was he in need of urgent help but me too! After reading the book “Call off the search” I had a session with Andrew Wallas. When I told him that my husband is ill he told me that I was ill as well. I was not happy to hear that, after all I had done so much my best to make our relationship work, often on my own….. but yes, I was ill as well, and I am still ill because this will take many years to cure, if ever! I was a willing Caretaker, no one forced me. I did it with the best intentions but in the later years even I could see that the association with me, no matter how hard I tried, wasn’t good for my husband. I still weep as I write this…… I still feel that I failed him but maybe, as I read on, I will be able to get over it! More and more I come to the conclusion that there aren’t many good therapists, so many times reading a book written by a really good one is worth a lot more than months or years of expensive therapy. That said the book does have a lot of repetitions which is a problem of many modern self-help books but.. despite that…. very much worth reading!

Right now I have the feeling that I have wrecked my life and my health. I am at a point in my life where I won’t be able to build a career anymore, maybe not even to get a decent job, so I am facing a terrible old age if I survive that far, but at least my soul will have found some peace! Even my hotshot lawyer is trying to take advantage of me.

As far as the abuse goes I read a very good book which I also sent to my husband and which made him come to terms with all the abuse that went on in our relationship: “Why does he do that”.

I will update my review when I finish reading this book!


Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Prix : EUR 11,83

2.0 étoiles sur 5 Veru boring!, 28 janvier 2015
I bought this book because my now almost ex-husband has come to the realization that he suffers from BPD and I wanted to try to protect myself better during the divorce but I find this book so boring and repetitive that I haven’t finished reading it yet although I have had it for a while and I am not sure that I will finish it. I think that the concepts contained in this book could have been said in less than half the pages. Of course I knew that it was an American book and therefore many things don’t apply to an European court but still I expected to find some pearls of wisdom which I didn’t really find, at least not so far. People who suffer from BPD are blamers and difficult to deal with in court, ok, but does one need a book to find out this? I also feel that the fact that the book often refers to the BPD suffers as being females very unfair because it is known that the numbers are equally divided between both sexes and that women go to the doctor more readily than men so they are more often diagnosed with all kinds of illnesses which doesn’t mean that men don’t suffer from them in even greater numbers but if they don’t visit the doctor no one will know. Am I better prepared for the divorce now I have read part of this book? Not really, no! Still I did discover some interesting, even if sad facts like the way BPD people manipulate the system and I know how frustrating this can be and also the fact that as many countries don’t have legal aid anymore getting a proper defence won’t be possible for a lot of people and that is terrible. The book talks about getting armed with professionals and some people even seem to take loans to do that but many of us can’t do it so we don’t stand a chance, which is my case. I know that I should have a few professionals working with me on this like a good lawyer, a therapist, an asset locator, etc, but I can’t pay for them so I can’t make sure that my rights are respected. My divorce is ridden with illegalities and irregularities but right now I don’t even have a lawyer because my last one was trying to rip me off by doing things that are completely against the law and I can’t do anything to make him hand the case to a knew lawyer I found. He has threated to file a complaint against me if I don’t pay, which I won’t but where on earth am I going to find another one as the one who was willing to take the case can’t represent me against him and to make things worse my ex-husband filed for divorce abroad. As a woman you are very vulnerable in the hands of all these people!


Cookies, Slices & Squares: Melt in Your Mouth Delicious Treats. by Pippa Cuthbert, Lindsay Cameron Wilson
Cookies, Slices & Squares: Melt in Your Mouth Delicious Treats. by Pippa Cuthbert, Lindsay Cameron Wilson
par Pippa Cuthbert
Edition : Relié
Prix : EUR 17,48

3.0 étoiles sur 5 It's Ok!, 28 janvier 2015
So far the few recipes I have tried from this book didn’t wow me at all. I found it in a charity shop and I thought that it was a great idea, a book only with cookie recipes and similar treats but the book lacks photos, the print is a bit hard to read, especially the bits written in red as the font is very thin. I will go on trying out more recipes but so far I wish I hadn’t bought it, even though I didn’t pay that much for it. I feel sorry for the authors because they seem like very positive ladies but I have to be honest in my review. I think that more modern books look more inspiring and the recipes more exciting.

I have tried the recipe of the White Chocolate and Macadamia Cookies, which I didn’t really like and the White Chocolate and Orange Brownies, not either. I did like the Condensed Milk Chocolate chip Cookies.


Goodefiner 581 Ensemble de 2 moules à modelage en silicone pour pâte à sucre et autres décorations de gâteaux
Goodefiner 581 Ensemble de 2 moules à modelage en silicone pour pâte à sucre et autres décorations de gâteaux
Proposé par Allforhome Moulds
Prix : EUR 5,04

3.0 étoiles sur 5 Ok pour le moment, 26 janvier 2015
J'ai acheté ces deux moules pour faire des dessins dans mes chocolats comme j'ai vu sur Youtube. Je ne l'ai utilisé qu'une fois et je me demande si j'ai plus de morceaux de chocolat à décorer le chocolat n'entre pas trop dans les trous et au fur et à mesure il ne se remplissent pas trop. Pour le moment ça a marché et les 4 chocolats que j'ai décoré avait des jolis dessins. Les moules sont petites mais le prix est ok donc on ne peut pas tout attendre. La livraison a été très vite !


Sauces and Marinades
Sauces and Marinades
par Nicola Diggins
Edition : Relié

4.0 étoiles sur 5 A bit basic but not too bad!, 21 janvier 2015
Ce commentaire fait référence à cette édition : Sauces and Marinades (Relié)
I came across this book by chance in a charity shop and it appealed to me, as I had never come across a book only on sauces and marinades. So far I have only made the Watercress Cream, which I served with cod fish and was delicious but I have read the book from cover to cover, as I always do. Many of the recipes are very well known and you can find them everywhere but there are nice variations and although this book is not a “must have”, I am sure that especially less experienced cooks will make a lot of use of it. It also brings interesting tips which although simple are sometimes things you don’t think of doing, like spreading the flavoured butters on a piece of aluminium foil, chilling it and then cutting it into shapes, rather than the usual rounds one usually does, after making a roll and freezing or chilling the butter.

I will also try some of the sauce recipes when I feel like a simple meal with a bit extra like I did with the fried cod fish with Watercress Sauce. A meal doesn’t need to be expensive or complicated to be very tasty!


Desserts: 140 Delectable Dishes Shown in 250 Stunning Photographs
Desserts: 140 Delectable Dishes Shown in 250 Stunning Photographs
par Kate Eddison
Edition : Broché
Prix : EUR 10,62

3.0 étoiles sur 5 Same recipes as in other books, 13 janvier 2015
Ce commentaire fait référence à cette édition : Desserts: 140 Delectable Dishes Shown in 250 Stunning Photographs (Broché)
When I started to read through this book I was astonished to find some recipes I had come across recently in another book seemingly by another author: Pastry recipes by Catherine Atkinson. I wonder whether these are fictional names? Even the photos are the same or else taken from a slightly different angle but one can see that it is the very same tart. I was quite a annoyed because although I have a large cooking library I have always been able to avoid that. Actually, Kate Eddison does have another dessert book which I don’t own but the cover photo is the same as one of the recipes in this book. I wish books would come with a short text to alert you for the fact that some or all of the recipes are the same as in other books but I suppose no author or publisher is willing to do that and lose out on sales.

Other than that this book does have a number of interesting recipes. I also wish that I had seen that many of the not repeated recipes are old classics you find in any cook book and which I usually avoid because I don’t want more of the same. I haven’t tried any recipe yet but these are the reasons to give this book 3 stars instead of 5. At the end there is an interesting chapter about making pastry, ice creams and other technical information. I also have one more question for the publishers…. Why make cook books more expensive by giving them a loose cover which is not at all handy in a kitchen? A cook book is a work instrument and I usually end up throwing these covers away. A waste of money!


Home-Made Chocolates & Truffles: 25 Traditional Recipes for Shaped, Filled & Hand-Dipped Confections
Home-Made Chocolates & Truffles: 25 Traditional Recipes for Shaped, Filled & Hand-Dipped Confections
par Claire Ptak
Edition : Relié
Prix : EUR 6,90

5.0 étoiles sur 5 Lovely, simple recipes!, 8 janvier 2015
This is a book full of quite simple but lovely recipes, most of them of truffles and a few of chocolates. Every recipes comes with a lovely photo and there are lots of important tips on chocolate making which will be very handy for beginners like me. I was hoping for more recipes of filled chocolates but well, that is not really what this book is all about. I haven’t made any recipes yet but I can’t see how they can fail. There are also a few recipes for chocolate bark. Some measurements are i cups and all are in imperial and metric. There are also some terms that come with the American equivalent.


Chocolates
Chocolates
par Valerie Eames
Edition : Broché

4.0 étoiles sur 5 Well worth having!, 7 janvier 2015
Ce commentaire fait référence à cette édition : Chocolates (Broché)
I only found this little book because a reviewer here on Amazon called my attention to it. I am a beginner chocolate maker and I was struggling big time. Thanks to all her tips I am now making very acceptable filled chocolates. I haven't made any of the recipes in this book yet but I enjoyed reading all the tips and I have selected quite a few recipes which I will make very soon. All the friends I have been giving chocolates to have enjoyed them big time so far.

This book shouldn't be bought for its beauty, as it looks quite old-fashioned but all recipes have photos and I think that I will enjoy making them very much, not to talk about all the people I give my little presents to who will enjoy eating the results! The recipes are all quite straight forward so this book will be very handy for beginners like me but also for seasoned chocolate makers after new ideas!


Joseph Joseph 20085 Rouleau à Pâtisserie Ajustable Multicolore 6,9 x 43,5 x 6,9 cm
Joseph Joseph 20085 Rouleau à Pâtisserie Ajustable Multicolore 6,9 x 43,5 x 6,9 cm
Prix : EUR 29,99

1.0 étoiles sur 5 Mauvais bois et mauvais service client!, 7 janvier 2015
J’ai acheté ce rouleau il y a quelque temps (la seule différence est la couleur des disques que sont gris), mais si la conception est bonne la qualité du bois est très mauvaise. J’ai contacté Joseph Joseph et ils m’ont dit d’utiliser du papier de verre pour égaliser le bois mais j’ai dit non car le rouleau était neuf et en plus il y a des chiffres qui allions disparaître. Il sont venu le chercher mais quelques jours plus tard il me l’on rendu… sans chiffres. Ils ne l’on pas échangé et ils ne m’ont même pas informé que je n’aurais plus les chiffres, très pratiques si on veut couper la pâte.

Avoir la pâte toute de la même épaisseur est pratique mais si la qualité du bois n’est pas bonne et elle colle il ne vaut pas la peine !


100 Recipes - Cakes
100 Recipes - Cakes
Prix : EUR 6,67

5.0 étoiles sur 5 Beautiful book!, 31 décembre 2014
Ce commentaire fait référence à cette édition : 100 Recipes - Cakes (Relié)
I haven’t made any of the recipes yet but I have read this book from cover to cover and I am going to make the White Chocolate Coffee Gâteau tomorrow. This is a tiny book with 100 recipes of all kinds of cakes. Each recipe takes two pages, one with the text and the other one with a beautiful photo enough to make your mouth water. This book isn’t only about cakes but also macaroons, whoopie pies, decorated cakes for special occasions, muffins and bars. There are some old time favourites. I think that no matter how experienced you are you will find here enough inspiration for many hours of cooking pleasure!

As I try out the recipes I will post here an update of my favourites!


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