New England Reviewer
- Publié sur Amazon.com
Terry Vaughan has put together a marvelous old school punch in the stomach book for dads who love their daughters, love being dads and may, in our days of emotional disregard of truth, need an encouragement from yesteryear that is timeless.
We love our little girls; fatherhood defines us and masculinity is a gift that sacrifices strength for right purposes. Masculinity does not exploit weakness, but honors it. Who knows better what consequences await children with abdicating parents? If you listen to Hollywood, it is clear that a 15 year old girl knows far more about life than her 40 year old father, but if you listen to the tears of heartbreak, betrayal, and victims of sexual assaults, wisdom speaks with the force of truth. In a world afraid to discern, Terry Vaughan puts himself on the line with a "here I am" style of writing, that gives you the impression that a good and trusted friend has come to your home, and will sit with you and share wisdom that can only lead to your daughter's safety and her love of you for being a father just when she needs it most.
The language is blunt, and the pace moves well. He is a talented writer who gives the impression that the topic, itself, is more important than impressing the reader with his skills. Funny at times, poignant at others, he even gives resources and practical advice.
I teach deception detection to law enforcement and the private sector, and from my experiences in the world of child abuse, I have conducted more than 6,000 interviews. I have developed an entire section of analysis dedicated to women who have been sexually abused, as their speech relates, at times, something that is all but impossible to communicate.
In many of the cases where teenaged girls were victimized, fathers were either absent, or emotionally and intellectually absent. Some who were present felt that they had no authority over their teenaged daughter's love interest, and felt, intuitively, that the young man who harmed her had 'telegraphed' his intentions through his words. Terry Vaughan gives such dads the impetus to assert himself, in spite of a world that has condemned masculinity. The rape epidemic in Sweden speaks volumes to how fathers can, and must learn practical ways to keep their daughters safe.
We adore them when they are young and often fear them when they become teenagers, but they need the protective love that only a father can give in spite of appearing grown up: they are still our little girls.
I recommend this book for all fathers of little girls, especially while they are still young, but I also find this to be a good book for fathers of young boys, who wish to teach their sons honor, respect and duty.
It is a face paced read, interesting throughout, and at any given chapter, the reader will often want 'more' to the topic. The language is unashamedly pointed.
Indulgent and abdicating fathers often learn too late, the bitterness of the life long scars that resulted from not protecting his precious little girl from harm.