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I found it rather whitewashed and incomplete. I'm a big fan of Jay Early's work, but rather disappointed in this book. Overall, it gave some good headway, points, and insights. There is an online workbook, I found it difficult to locate, and required a fee to enroll and use when I tried to connect via computer. The kindle does connect but it was cumbersome to use. Nonetheless, the workbook served no more than a focal of ideas/realizations, or as an online journal, so rather needless overall.
In regards to the whitewashing, and incomplete nature, it mainly addressed situations where most everyone was readily receptive to the character, Lauren. One person less than receptive eventually embraced this empowered character with some due diligence on Lauren's part. It was very easy, as it can be when dealing with "normal" or "functional" people. But coming from a large, extended, dysfunctional family, I found a huge section on what to do missing, when say for example, a family member not only rejects any form of assertiveness but reacts with hostility or even physical violence. It also neglected to mention how dangerous it can be for a person to assert themselves, especially in the beginning, to an abusive family member, and to first find a public area, a safe distance to assert oneself over the phone or something similar. How does one tread the minefield of disordered family members whilst walking the path of self Assertion(most probably without the support of others deep in the mire of dysfunction)?
So yes, it is possible everything comes out roses, and gumdrops, but what if it doesn't, what then? Maybe throw in some more perspectives, or experiences, for a better balanced or more complete book. Add a little more struggle than what was included, make it a bit more real. Maybe the husband doesn't support the wife, Lauren, in her assertive path, and write how does the character handle the In-laws then. I'm sure Jay Early has experienced a larger spectrum of situations than what he included in this book, how about adding those too. I have people-pleasing friends who could benefit from a broader/inclusive book, but sadly cannot recommend this book to them. Luckily I found a book on a similar subject, that went far beyond this book, addressed things I never even thought of, and even discussed parts about as much if not more than Jay Earley's book. This book resembled more of a pamphlet on People-pleasing in comparison.
I was looking for something deeper, and found wanting. I'm still a fan of his earlier work, but this is by far, not one of his best nor most balanced work.