Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child′s True Potential (Anglais) Broché – 11 mars 2011
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Stephen R. Covey, author, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
A smart, deeply perceptive and important book.
Wendy Mogel, PhD, author, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee
"This book helps parents see how to encourage their children to develop as whole people with feelings, ideas, and the ability to cope with the occasional disappointment too."
Roberta Michnick Golinkoff, PhD, author of Einstein Never Used Flash Cards
Filled with vignettes and strategies for raising smart kids to become healthy, happy and contributing adults.
Vicki Abeles, Producer, Race to Nowhere
A wise and witty book . (Junior, December 2012)
Présentation de l'éditeur
"My kid is smart, but..."
It takes more than school smarts to create a fulfilling life. In fact, many bright children face special challenges:
- Some are driven by perfectionism;
- Some are afraid of effort, because they′re used to instant success;
- Some routinely butt heads with authority figures;
- Some struggle to get along with their peers;
- Some are outwardly successful but just don′t feel good about themselves.
This practical and compassionate book explains the reasons behind these struggles and offers parents do–able strategies to help children cope with feelings, embrace learning, and build satisfying relationships. Drawing from research as well as the authors’ clinical experience, it focuses on the essential skills children need to make the most of their abilities and become capable, confident, and caring people.
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In the "Tempering Perfectectionism" section I'm applying what the authors call "reflect" and "resist the temptation to offer pointers." So hard! That means, I'm not arguing when my daughter says, "I can't do math," but reflecting her words by saying "You're feeling frustrated about math." In this same chapter, I'm applying the "no excuses, only plans" strategy. This means, I don't argue with her statement that she can't do math, reflectively listen, and then I ask her, "What do you think you could do that might help?" \
I could write a book about this book so I better skip to chapter six on developing motivation, which is "a state, not a trait." The authors break motivation into what we already know -extrinsic and intrinsic -- but take it further and show that extrinsic motivation is three kinds - situation-based, approval-based, and value-based. Value-based motivation is the most "robust form" say the authors and stems from "children's consciously chosen and personally meaningful ideals." Who knew? I didn't and while I'm all for intrinsic motivation as much as possible, it's not always going to happen when you have to memorize multiplication tables, or go into the hospital for mandatory tests like we had to last week. So, this section is a must read -- and more realistic than other books that demand only intrinsic motivation. That simply doesn't work for all situations and all children all the time.
Other chapters in Smart Parenting for Smart Kids include Managing Sensitivity, Handling Cooperation and Competition, Dealing with Authority, Finding Joy, and the Conclusion talks about the pressure to perform versus the power to grow.
I can't say enough good things about this book, it's absolutely one of the best books on parenting I've ever read.
Right off, I liked the tone in this book. It was intelligent, yet compassionate, chock-full of parenting insight and child psychology, yet practical and very readable. This book took me a long time to finish reading because it needs to be absorbed and it made me think a lot. It made me question my actions and my motives and had me observing more closely my children and their reactions toward my response whether positive or negative.
I'm on the bandwagon of parents who want to offer their kids good opportunities for learning, immersing our family in music lessons, extracurricular activities, sports, volunteering, homework supervision and so on. But I've learned to watch out for stress signals and to balance our family life so as not to be over-scheduled. Yet, I still struggle with this and reading Smart Parenting has assuaged my fears that my kids would be left out if not fully involved in activities that help them grow in some aspect of their life.
The chapters I focused on the most were: Tempering Perfectionism, which had me re-evaluating the way I supervise homework (I'm the perfectionist, not my kids!); Managing Sensitivity, which was so insightful for me on so many levels (both my daughter and I are sensitive); Handling Cooperation and Competition, which is helping me deal with my son's competitiveness; and Finding Joy, which made me realize how important it is to make small changes that will result in my family experiencing more joy and happiness.
Throughout the chapters, there are scenes with dialogue (some of which will sound so familiar) followed by strategies that parents can implement to deal with that particular situation or behaviour. These vignettes easily had me identify if this was a problem I had encountered (not just as a parent but also in my field) and how I could deal with the social, emotional and intellectual needs of my children and clients. I learned a lot about myself, not only as a parent but also as a person. Sometimes, helping your child succeed means changing the way you parent--like not correcting your child's homework!
I can't stress enough how helpful and insightful Smart Parenting is for any parent who wants to nurture their children's true potential without heaping expectations on them (ours or that of society) that can be detrimental in the long run. All parents, of course, want the best for their children, and whether we admit it or not, we do have expectations for them. But each child is an individual with a complex emotional, social and intellectual make-up. Smart Parenting guides parents in understanding their children and working alongside them to maturity and success according to their abilities and desires.
I highly recommend this intelligent book to all parents who feel the stress of helping their kids' achieve, to educators, social workers and teachers. It's an excellent resource and a keeper on my bookshelf. It' a book I will refer to again and again.